I need this.
Reblogged last year, hoping it comes this year
Yknow, when you keep insisting that adults can’t enjoy fandom or play video games or what cartoons or whatever, it’s other young people that you’re hurting the most. Because the most you’ll do to adults is offend or annoy them with that nonsense, but when you plant that idea in a kid’s head, they grow older with the horrible dread looming over them that the things that bring them happiness and comfort have an expiration date. When I was a young adult, I was genuinely depressed about the thought of getting older because I thought I couldn’t keep enjoying all my hobbies, like I had to give up everything I enjoy once I reach [x] age.
And that is simply not true. It’s bullshit. But the harm is does to people is very real. Kids are so afraid of getting older, and one of the big fears is that their life will become painfully bland and boring once they hit adulthood, as if all adults do is work and pay taxes, possibly raise kids. No more fun, no whimsy, no playfulness, no joy.
Anyway, I’m 33 and I love video games and fanfiction and cartoons. If you tell me I’m too old for that stuff, I’ll roll my eyes and block you and go on with my day. But I will worry about the 17 year old who saw your post too and feels a sinking in their chest at the thought that they have to give up the stuff that makes them happy. THAT’S what bothers me.
I’m 26; I love playing video games, writing fanfiction and watching Pixar movies. I’ll never grow out of this, and I never want to.
When other adults have dreams of boring beige stuff I dream of filling my house with pop vinyl, nerdy decor and fandom shirts. I already have a pop vinyl shelf, a pokemon plushie collection and all my instruments piled in a corner 🤣
Growing up and older always happens, but I’m never becoming boring just because people say I should 😂😂
Gen Z is awesome and generational fighting is bad, but I do sometimes talk to Gen Z folks and I’m like... oh... you cannot comprehend before the internet.
Like activists have been screaming variations on “educate yourself!” for as long as I’ve been alive and probably longer, but like... actually doing so? Used to be harder?
And anger at previous generations for not being good enough is nothing new. I remember being a kid and being horrified to learn how recent desegregation had been and that my parents and grandparents had been alive for it. Asking if they protested or anything and my mom being like “I was a child” and my grandma being like “well, no, I wasn’t into politics” but I was a child when I asked so that didn’t feel like much of an excuse from my mother at the time and my grandmother’s excuse certainly didn’t hold water and I remember vowing not to be like that.
So kids today looking at adults and our constant past failures and being like “How could you not have known better? Why didn’t you DO better?” are part of a long tradition of kids being horrified by their history, nothing new, and also completely justified and correct. That moral outrage is good.
But I was talking to a kid recently about the military and he was talking about how he’d never be so stupid to join that imperialist oppressive terrorist organization and I was like, “Wait, do you think everyone who has ever joined the military was stupid or evil?” and he was like, well maybe not in World War 2, but otherwise? Yeah.
And I was like, what about a lack of education? A lack of money? The exploitation of the lower classes? And he was like, well, yeah, but that’s not an excuse, because you can always educate yourself before making those choices.
And I was like, how? Are you supposed to educate yourself?
And he was like, well, duh, research? Look it up!
And I was like, and how do you do that?
And he was like, start with google! It’s not that hard!
And I was like, my friend. My kid. Google wasn’t around when my father joined the military.
Then go to the library! The library in the small rural military town my father grew up in? Yeah, uh, it wasn’t exactly going to be overflowing with anti-military resources.
Well then he should have searched harder!
How? How was he supposed to know to do that? Even if he, entirely independently figured out he should do that, how was he supposed to find that information?
He was a kid. He was poor. He was the first person in his family to aspire to college. And then by the time he knew what he signed up for it was literally a criminal offense for him to try to leave. Because that’s the contract you sign.
(Now, listen, my father is also not my favorite person and we agree on very little, so this example may be a bit tarnished by those facts, but the material reality of the exploitative nature of military recruitment remains the same.)
And this is one of a few examples I’ve come across recently of members of Gen Z just not understanding how hard it was to learn new ideas before the internet. I’m not blaming anyone or even claiming it’s disproportionate or bad. But the same kids that ten years ago I was marveling at on vacation because they didn’t understand the TV in the hotel room couldn’t just play more Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on demand - because they’d never encountered linear prescheduled TV, are growing into kids who cannot comprehend the difficulty of forming a new worldview or making life choices when you cannot google it. When you have maybe one secondhand source or you have to guess based on lived experience and what you’ve heard. Information, media, they have always been instant.
Society should’ve been better, people should’ve known better, it shouldn’t have taken so long, and we should be better now. That’s all true.
But controlling information is vital to controlling people, and information used to be a lot more controlled. By physical law and necessity! No conspiracy required! There’s limited space on a newspaper page! There’s limited room in a library! If you tried to print Wikipedia it would take 2920 bound volumes. That’s just Wikipedia. You could not keep the internet’s equivalent of resources in any small town in any physical form. It wasn’t there. We did not have it. When we had a question? We could not just look it up.
Kids today are fortunate to have dozens of firsthand accounts of virtually everything important happening at all times. In their pockets.
(They are also cursed by this, as we all are, because it’s overwhelming and can be incredibly bleak.)
If anything, today the opposite problem occurs - too much information and not enough time or context to organize it in a way that makes sense. Learning to filter out the garbage without filtering so much you insulate yourself from diverse ideas, figuring out who’s reliable, that’s where the real problem is now.
But I do think it has created, through no fault of anyone, this incapacity among the young to truly understand a life when you cannot access the relevant information. At all. Where you just have to guess and hope and do your best. Where educating yourself was not an option.
Where the first time you heard the word lesbian, it was from another third grader, and she learned it from a church pastor, and it wasn’t in the school library’s dictionary so you just had to trust her on what it meant.
I am not joking, I did not know the actual definition of the word “fuck” until I was in high school. Not for lack of trying! I was a word nerd, and I loved research! It literally was not in our dictionaries, and I knew I’d get in trouble if I asked. All I knew was it was a “bad word”, but what it meant or why it was bad? No clue.
If history felt incomprehensibly cruel and stupid while I was a kid who knew full well the feeling of not being able to get the whole story, I cannot imagine how cartoonishly evil it must look from the perspective of someone who’s always been able to get a solid answer to any question in seconds for as long as they’ve been alive. To Gen Z, we must all look like monsters.
I’m glad they know the things we did not. I hope one day they are able to realize how it was possible for us not to know. How it would not have been possible for them to know either, if they had lived in those times. I do not need their forgiveness. But I hope they at least understand. Information is so powerful. Understanding that is so important to building the future. Underestimating that is dangerous.
We were peasants in a world before the printing press. We didn’t know. I’m so sorry. For so many of us we couldn’t have known. I cannot offer any other solace other than this - my sixty year old mother is reading books on anti-racism and posting about them to Facebook, where she’s sharing what’s she’s learning with her friends. Ignorance doesn’t have to last forever.
One of my major concerns and issues around Gen Z. A typical young person response but now magnified because of their access to the internet
Mass Effect au where instead of the Starchild, Shepard finally gets indoctrinated by the Reapers at the very end and you have to play as the squadmate with highest relationship points or their LI to stop them.
If your ems is high enough, you can break through the indoctrination and bring Shepard back to stop the cycle.
If your ems is too low, you have to stop Shepard.
Permanently.
And it falls to you to activate the Crucible.
If you stayed the age of your birth DAY forever, how old you would be?
28
26
16 ;-;
12 😂😂😂
I wouldn’t change it, or get rid of it if I had the choice. I’m lucky that my symptoms are milder than others, and I’m able to function pretty well in society. But, being neurodiverse IS me, we are not separate - we are the same.
I wouldn’t change it for anything, it gives me a different perspective, I see things other don’t, I remember things other’s don’t bother with/care about, I’m matter of fact, literal, and rarely lie.
Neurotypical people speak in riddles and think everything has a double meaning; why the fuck would I want to be like that? They think I’m weird and have no empathy, have they considered that they’re the weird ones with no empathy?
After being diagnosed with both ADHD and ASD, I tell people how having a diagnosis of at least one (as having both was not possible before the DSM-5 in 2013) would’ve improved my life dramatically.
I often hear back: “But look how far you’ve come without a diagnosis! It shows how *insert compliment here* you are”
For some reason; finishing school, having a university degree and holding down a job is something to applaud. Functioning like a normal person is something to be proud of. (I also hear “you don’t LOOK autistic” or some variation, don’t get me started on that!).
Regardless of whether it is something to be proud of, it doesn’t excuse or change the suffering that I went through to do it. Behind it all was a lifetime of pain, depression, and anxiety. I took five years to finish a three year degree, I struggle with money and saving, and I struggle at my job for having unprofessional behaviour because I’m pushed far too fast or into a corner of overstimulation, and they don’t understand ASD or recognise symptoms. Having a bad day is never an option, because it’s seen as me regressing.
I spend every waking moment in a world not built for me. Everything is too loud and too overwhelming, and I’m told constantly to “just deal with it” or “get over it”. Masking is exhausting, and GOSH I’d love to live in a world where I can be myself and not be judged for it.
Having help as a kid would’ve given me techniques to manage my two neurodivergences so that I could’ve built strategies as an adult, and instead I’m 26 trying to piece my life together. At least I’m not 40, but shit it would’ve helped to be picked up at 10.
mass effect 3 secret ending where after you choose the color Nihlus shows up and tells Shepard that he staged the entire reaper invasion just to make sure they will be an okay Spectre
Nihlus:

I don’t know if I would’ve been relieved or angry hahahaha